You reach a point in a dating relationship where you wonder if it's going to get more serious. When you want things to be official because you've decided that you really like the guy, you want to know if he feels the same.
Here's some ways to tell whether or not he has any intention of taking things to the next level with you.
He Does Not Want to Meet Your Family
He may not say directly that he doesn't want to, but he always finds a way to talk his way out of it. If he has actually agreed to it before and then didn't show up, this is the bottom of the barrel.
It will be nothing but discomfort and guilt for him if he has to meet them and be around your closest family members, and he knows this.
He Doesn't Really Care About Your Friends
Chances are good that he's met at least some of your friends. Even if he was nice to them, he probably would be unable to remember their names or what they looked like if you quizzed him. This does not mean you did anything wrong, and it certainly does not mean your friends aren't awesome; all it means is he's not ready for a serious relationship or commitment.
Sharing friends and hanging out in groups of your mutual buddies is something that serious couples do, and that's what he doesn't want.
Your Passions and Interests Do Not Matter to Him
If major events occur in your professional life or creative endeavors and he shows no genuine interest, this is bad. First and foremost, it means that he's not even capable of being a decent friend to you.
The bottom line is that he just doesn't have time to care about the things that you care about. He is selfish and probably knows that he is, and that's likely one of the many reasons why he doesn't want a commitment with you or anyone else.
He Avoids Making Future Plans With You
The longer the two of you have been dating, the greater the chances are that you have brought up the possibility of taking a nice vacation together. If he balked and was very uncomfortable during this conversation, that is very telling about his real opinion of the relationship and where it's headed.
Aside from vacation plans, he will avoid making any definite plans for future events with you. He wants no obligations and no responsibility whatsoever. You shouldn't hate him for this, it is his right after all, but you should also know the truth so your time isn't wasted.
If You're Upset, He Fakes Concern
You might have given up on even going to him for comfort if you're upset. Perhaps he doesn't know how to act around a woman who's upset, or he just doesn't care enough to deal with it. Whatever the reason, if he can't even offer genuine concern when you're hurting, then ask yourself why you even want him to be your boyfriend in the first place?
He Always Finds a Way to Get Off the Phone First
Sure, he calls you; the two of you talk frequently on the phone and have some decent conversations. Unfortunately, there's almost a point in the conversation when he seems bored, even if you've only been talking a few minutes.
There might not be that period where he acts bored, but if he always thinks of reasons to get off the phone, it's one of three things: 1. He's genuinely busy, 2. It's just a coincidence and doesn't mean anything, 3. He needs to escape from you. Since he can't actually escape in person and with your actual relationship, he gets subconscious relief by saying goodbye and hanging up before you're ready for it to happen.
If He Truly Planned on it, he Would Have Already
This is true only if you have been dating him for a decent amount of time. If six months or more have gone by and he hasn't initiated that discussion about your status as a couple, he certainly doesn't plan on doing it anytime soon.
